2.29.2012

Sleep? What's That???


Seriously, I don't know what its like to sleep 2 full hours straight anymore.

Madison is driving me insane! She wakes up every hour crying. I wake up every hour crying too lol.

I feel like I have aged so much more in these 4 days/night then in my whole life time. I look scary.


Oh, Madison! What is going on with you sweet baby girl. I pick you up and  nurse you, but you only take a few little drinks, so I don't think you are all that hungry. I think your problem is that you want to be held! If I put you back in your crib when you are not fully asleep you get so mad and start kicking and screaming/crying I have to pick you back up again and try to calm you down. When you're in deep sleep then I can put you down and your fine, but as soon as mommy is finally falling into deep sleep, there you go again. I know we are in a new place, and you are teething, but I am not sure these are the reasons why you are waking up. I do know that the grandparents started rocking you to sleep, and now it seems like that's all you want because when I do rock you, you stop crying. During the day you do the same. You love being held and when I put you down to play with your toys you'll cry, sometimes you wont and you'll play happily. What I need to start doing is holding you less through out the day and for the grandparents to stop rocking you to sleep!



Any other suggestions?? You would think this being my third child I would know what to do, but I don't.

Awake, I dream about how AMAZING 3 hour sleep must feel like. I miss you SLEEP!!! Come back soon, please! This mama needs you or else I will be feeling and looking like a 60+ year old woman.

PS I don't really like asking my mom or the hubs to help because I feel as a SAHM its my responsibility to get up with her at night, and it doesn't bother me getting up, I just really wish I didn't have to and she would sleep through the night! So, I am on a mission to figure out how to get this girl sleeping through the night!! HELP ME!! suggestions, please!!

Note: if this post doesn't make sense and its all over the place it's because I have only gotten 8 hours of sleep in 5 days ;)

Oh! on another note... i was featured over at Kelsey's blog here :)

2.24.2012

Lunch Date

 A few weeks ago, I had a lovely lunch date with this beautiful women!! 
AND... Today... is... her... BIRTHDAY!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY SWEET FRIEND!
I LOVE YOU!
SEE YOU SOON!


2.22.2012

Guest Post!

 
Hola!!

I have been MIA do to us moving and getting a new routine down, so today I have a lovely guest... meet... Ani!


Happy Day Our Extraordinary Life readers!!!  I’m Ani from AA Dreams and I’m Sending a big thanks to beautiful Olga for asking me to guest post for her today. It's such a dreamy pleasure to be here today so again, Thank you.
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Now a little about me and my blog I am a Wife to an Extraordinary Man, a Proud Stay at Home Mommy to an 8 year old handsome little guy and to a 5 year old super girl

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Lover of all beautiful things, an Over Planner, 
believer of a great God and A Beautiful Daughter of God 
AA Dreams is where I share my Life and Learning Experiences and dream that I can make a difference in someone else Life. 

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As a Stay Home Mom things can be very stressful at times, right? unless your a Superhero Mom, which I bet we all wish we were at times.  But it's those times that we are so much more likely to fall into bad temptations. But it's also the best time to speak to God.
A few months back I knelt down and asked God to please help me. Help me get through a hard week, to help me get all the things at home done, to have a clean home and to be the best wife and mom I can be... I was humble and asked for help.

It's amazing how he can respond to your prayers, 
when you least expect it... and I believe there are certain people that God brings into your life for a meaningful reason.

To learn from them, to be a great example in your life, to encourage you, to make you laugh, to be a friend... 

All those things and much more sweet Olga has been since 
I found her blog last July. I know for some amazing reason I was meant to read her blog and I am so grateful that I did. 

Sometimes you just need that little extra motivation
to remember that everything is going to be OKAY!!!
even from a stranger... 

it's all those amazing little things that God does for us that reminds us to appreciate and love this beautiful life.

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Thank you, Ani!! You are Extraordinary!!

2.17.2012

What Women Want

 
A few days ago I posted on The Four Major Needs of a Man so, today I will share my notes on what I learned about what women want! my notes on what women want are less then the one for the man, of course ;)
First

Agian (like in the post of Mans needs), 

there are 3 major problems in marriage

1. You cant change the unchangeable
-Your spouse is the opposite of you and that is normal, you are supposed to be different
-Some needs cannot be met by another person only by God

2. When you reject your spouse needs, you are rejecting her
-Meeting needs closes doors to other temptations
-Accept your spouses needs as being valid.
-Denying her needs being met will result in an unhealthy marriage.

3. Selfishness
- Marriage is designed to die to self
-Rejecting her needs is selfish
-You are a good wife/husband till he/she says you are.
-Jesus came to serve not to be served.
-Be servants towards each other.

What Women Want
1. Security
~Be concerned, come to her world -what doesn't bother a man bothers a women
~She needs your strength and understanding
~Be there to help
~Husbands love your wives as God loved the church
~Be a faithful provider
~Study her- want her heart

2. Soft non-sexual affection = the more sexual women become
~Romance- meeting an unspoken need
~You value her
~You care
~Emotional connection = Security
~Hold her hand, wrap your arms around her

3. Open & Honest Communication
~Detail      
~Emotional information  (It is not that she is nosey, its that she cares)
~Communicate is not just words its also feelings & emotions
~Talk with her whether you feel like it or not
~Listen/Care
~Be verbal
~Communication is oxygen to her
~Opening up = healing and re-wiring

women can fix men (their emotions or what is holding them back) if they let them

4. Leadership
(Doesn't mean dominance)
~Women want their husbands to help...
*discipline their children
*Romance - intimate
*Finances- Budget together
*Spiritual- Pray, go to church

The definition of a HUSBAND  = a grower
husbands you can nurish (protect), feed,  mature your wife - physically, emotionally and spiritually.




well men, there you have it. now, go and put these 4 needs into practice!!

2.16.2012

A New Season

 
This is how our place looked...

now it looks like this...
 This weekend, this place will be empty!

We are doing it! We are moving! This will be a start to a new season in our lives. My parents offered us an offer we couldn't say no to. They offered us to move in with them. We told them our plans of buying next year in Blackhawk (Danville)!! And my parents suggested that we move in with them, for a year, so we can save a-heck-of-a-lot more. We decided to go for it and move in with them.

 We are also in the process of buying two investment properties! On one of the investment properties we are just waiting on the bank (Its a short sale)!

 I am so grateful that my parents are opening their doors for us, that way we can save more and buy these investments properties and our home!! I am so thankful for all the blessings God has poured out to us! Because of Him, we will be able to buy investment properties and next year our home in Blackhawk!! I am so grateful for a husband who works so hard for us, so that we may have the best. Our original plan was to stay living in this place and just keep saving to buy a home in Blackhawk before Raychel starts kindergarten. One of the reasons we want to buy in Blackhawk is the schools. They are one of the best schools. The elementary school is actually an award winning school. Ray wants nothing but the best for his little girls. So, by the grace of God and the hard work of my dear husband, everything seems to be going as planned or even better with this offer from the parents!

I have been so busy packing and moving that I really haven't had so much time to blog. I will probably be MIA all next week and the week after, but I will definitely be reading all your guys is posts on the hubs iPad ;). I might have some scheduled posts as well :).

Yay for a new season in our life!

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

For everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven:

a time to be born and a time to die,


a time to plant and a time to uproot,

 a time to kill and a time to heal,

a time to tear down and a time to build,

a time to weep and a time to laugh,

a time to mourn and a time to dance,

 a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,

a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,

 a time to search and a time to give up,

a time to keep and a time to throw away,

a time to tear and a time to mend,

a time to be silent and a time to speak,

a time to love and a time to hate,

a time for war and a time for peace.



2.09.2012

The Four Major Needs of a Man

 
 This past Saturday Ray and  I went to a marriage couples get together from our church and it was so much fun! We got to spend time with other couples and learn about husband and wife's needs! I want to share what I learned about the four major needs of a man! These are my notes I took, and since my blog is where I document everything, I surly want to look back on this from time to time ;) {Note: this is what I believe, and God forbid, if you are in a abusive marriage, these do not apply}

First
there are 3 major problems in marriage

1. You cant change the unchangeable
-Your spouse is the opposite of you and that is normal, you are supposed to be different
-Some needs cannot be met by another person only by God

2. When you reject your spouse needs, you are rejecting him
-Meeting needs closes doors to other temptations
-Accept your spouses needs as being valid.
-Denying his needs being met will result in an unhealthy marriage.

3. Selfishness
 - Marriage is designed to die to self
-Rejecting his needs is selfish
-You are a good wife/husband till he/she says you are.
-Jesus came to serve not to be served.
-Be servants towards each other.

The Four Major needs of a man

1. HONOR
- Praise him
-Focus on his strength not his weaknesses
-Honor is like his oxygen
-How would you treat Jesus?
-Honor your husband to where you want him to be and he will rise to that level! Believe.
- Dis-honor him and he will stay down

note: anyone can honor the perfect man.

2. SEX
-Its a force in a man
-Commit to meeting this need
-Be more sexual then you feel
-Men are visual

3. Fun & Friendship
- Is the basis of a good marriage
-Be his friend before being a mother
-Doing things with him that he enjoys makes him feel like you are still interested in him {you still like him}

4. Home Supporter
-Wife/mommy duties
-Stress free home {clean}
-Making your house a home


Have Fun Together!
The best marriage in the world is two servants in love



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For any men out there who read my blog... I will be posting what women want/need very soon, so stay tuned ;)

2.07.2012

What's Your Love Story



I am linking up with From Mrs.to Mama today!!


1. How long have you and your significant other been together?Ray and I have been together for 9 lovely years!

2. How did you meet? {What's your "love" story?}
We met at the Chiropractic office I used to work at. Ray would come in and get adjusted by the doctor, and after a few times of him coming in, he asked me on a date and from then on it was history!



3. If married, how long have you been married?  Ray and I have been married for 5 years!


4. If you are married, where did you get married at? Big or small wedding?  We got married at a golf course in Sunol. We had about 120 people at our wedding.


5. Do you have any nick-names that you call one another? Do share!
Ray calls me Boo. I call him, love bug, my love, babe, honey. ;) 

6. Name 3 things you love most about your honey.
1. His heart! I love his love for people. 2. His determination. 3.Because he is Ray and there is no other like him!

 
7. Tell us how he proposed? Or your ideal proposal?
Ray proposed while we were on a cruise! 

 After a nice dinner on the cruise we headed back to our room and we went out to our balcony, he actually went back in to grab the ring { I, of course did not know, I thought he was grabbing us a drink} while I stayed looking out at the beautiful scenery, Ray comes back out and gets on his knee and asks me to marry him {he says other things before he actually asks me to marry him, but I am just trying to keep it nice and simple}!




8. Is he a flowers and teddy bear kind of guy for v-day, or strawberries, champagne, and rose petals? Ray is a v-day card type of guy! Which I love, because i love when he expresses his feelings towards me. :)


9. Are you a sunset dinner on the beach kind of girl, or pop a movie in and relax on the couch? Are you kidding?! Of course... well... for me... I'd rather be on the beach!!



10. Tell us one thing you'd like to do with your significant one day. If you could do anything? Go anywhere?
we would spend a whole month in panama mx, just the two of us! I would also love for us to go back to Africa.


11. Tell us what you plan on doing on this Valentine's Day.
something simple, maybe dinner and a movie.

12. Are you asking for anything this Valentine's day?
nope, not asking for anything... just QT with him.

13. Give us one piece of advice of keeping a relationship strong and full of love.
Do it all with LOVE. Forgive. Respect. Focus on making him happy and he will end up doing the same for you. AND go on lots and lots of dates together!!


14. Show us a picture of what love means to you.







 

2.03.2012

My Beautiful Princesses


My girls love watching mommy put her makeup on and some days I will let them put makeup on me. Yesterday, I let them put makeup on each other... since they were going to get a bath right after. They had so much fun putting makeup on each other, they were giggling and talking as if they were mommies. Ray came home for lunch and was like "what are they doing?!" I told him they have been good, and that they love playing with my makeup and that it was OK because I was going to give them a bath right after. I don't let them play with my makeup all that often, just every now and then ;)

~Today, I am so thankful and grateful that my girls are healthy.  I thank God for their health. He has giving me these beautiful princesses to watch over and raise them up for Him. Ray and I are over joyed to have these beautiful healthy girls in our lives. I thank you Lord, for you have blessed me abundantly! I praise you, Father God!


 


 I think the girls watch too much football!


Little Madi is almost 7 months!!!!




2.01.2012

Breakfast for Champions & a Tow

 
  I met up with my wonderful friends and my lovely sister for breakfast. Its such a blessing to get together with friends and enjoy some laughs together and mommy conversations or in my sisters case mommy to be conversations ;). 





 When I took the picture of the Eggs Benedict I was counting 1, 2, 3 snap {lol} Clarissa stated laughing and said, "say cheese!" we all started laughing. I have no clue why I counted to take the picture of the eggs benedict haha! fun times.





After breakfast we all headed out or so what I thought was going to happen, but my car had different plans, it wanted to stick around. It wouldn't start! So, I called AAA and they said it was going to be about 2 hours for them to get there. My little peanuts and I just hung around till AAA got there. Ray had to pick up Raychel from school and my mom came and picked me, Oceana and Madison up since my car wasn't going to start at all, and It was going to have to get towed :(. I am car-less till hopefully tomorrow, we shall see.








  You can plan out your day as much as you'd like, but God is the one in control. If your plans don't turn out the way you had planned them, then it's God trying to teach us something new. He is the ruler of all the earth and the universe!