2.17.2012

What Women Want

 
A few days ago I posted on The Four Major Needs of a Man so, today I will share my notes on what I learned about what women want! my notes on what women want are less then the one for the man, of course ;)
First

Agian (like in the post of Mans needs), 

there are 3 major problems in marriage

1. You cant change the unchangeable
-Your spouse is the opposite of you and that is normal, you are supposed to be different
-Some needs cannot be met by another person only by God

2. When you reject your spouse needs, you are rejecting her
-Meeting needs closes doors to other temptations
-Accept your spouses needs as being valid.
-Denying her needs being met will result in an unhealthy marriage.

3. Selfishness
- Marriage is designed to die to self
-Rejecting her needs is selfish
-You are a good wife/husband till he/she says you are.
-Jesus came to serve not to be served.
-Be servants towards each other.

What Women Want
1. Security
~Be concerned, come to her world -what doesn't bother a man bothers a women
~She needs your strength and understanding
~Be there to help
~Husbands love your wives as God loved the church
~Be a faithful provider
~Study her- want her heart

2. Soft non-sexual affection = the more sexual women become
~Romance- meeting an unspoken need
~You value her
~You care
~Emotional connection = Security
~Hold her hand, wrap your arms around her

3. Open & Honest Communication
~Detail      
~Emotional information  (It is not that she is nosey, its that she cares)
~Communicate is not just words its also feelings & emotions
~Talk with her whether you feel like it or not
~Listen/Care
~Be verbal
~Communication is oxygen to her
~Opening up = healing and re-wiring

women can fix men (their emotions or what is holding them back) if they let them

4. Leadership
(Doesn't mean dominance)
~Women want their husbands to help...
*discipline their children
*Romance - intimate
*Finances- Budget together
*Spiritual- Pray, go to church

The definition of a HUSBAND  = a grower
husbands you can nurish (protect), feed,  mature your wife - physically, emotionally and spiritually.




well men, there you have it. now, go and put these 4 needs into practice!!

10 comments:

  1. This is being sent to my husband :) Great post Olga!

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  2. Love both of these posts. Our current series at church is about "Fixing Your Marriage". It's so encouraging to be reminded of our Godly duties at husbands & wives. Good luck with your moving...it can be so tedious, but totally worth it! : )

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  3. great post! well written!!! and lots of truth :)

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  4. This is so perfect! I love this post! You're a great writer!

    xo

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  5. Olga, I have to say again what a smokin' couple you two make:). You just smolder! hehe I LOVED this post and it is so spot on with what a healthy and Christ-like marriage should look like. I love that you are continuing to have a marriage ministry on your blog and be a light to others!! God Bless you girl!

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  6. It is so wonderful finding fellow christian bloggers! Reading through your posts, I am already so encouraged by your love for the Lord! Keep showing the world Jesus! Can't wait to read more posts :]

    xo.
    molly @ urban nester
    http://alwaysamrsforeverakidd.blogspot.com

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  7. So true girl!!! I love this post and how it refers to how a healthy marriage should be especially if you have Christ in your life.

    <3

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  8. So so so true!!! Thanks for these posts!! And gorgeous pictures of you and your man!

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  9. Awww i just found and love your blog! You have a beautiful family! God bless you all!

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  10. love these posts :) nice to see another woman put this all in writing. and thank you for your sweet prayers and well wishes! still recovering at the hospital, Mason is in wonderful hands!

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