8.13.2012

are we renting our marriage or are we owning it?!

 Over the weekend I was reminded how beautiful a marriage can be and at the same time how hard it can be as well.

Are we renting our marriage or owning it?

Marriage is like owning a property or for some it's like renting.
When we rent a property we don't take that great care of it as if it were our own. When we rent and if something is terribly wrong with the property, what do we do? We would probably leave it and go find another. BUT, when we own our property and something goes terribly wrong, we don't leave it and go looking for another, we stay and we do whatever it takes to fix those problems. Marriage is so similar. We should always own our marriage. We made a vow, a commitment to stay through the good times and the bad. If something goes wrong we work at it till its fixed no matter how long the process of fixing it will take, we stick with it because we own it, we are committed to it. 
 It seem like now a days we are renting our marriages and when something goes wrong we leave it and go rent somewhere else. There will always be problems whether its in this property or the next. No one is perfect. We are all unique in our own way. No two people think the same way, and that's beautiful! Marriage is a beautiful thing, it teaches us to work together, it teaches us who we really are or who we want to be and not be. Marriage is between two people who love each other no matter how imperfect one or the other is. Marriage is two people committed to helping each other out. It's not all just about you/me or him, its about both of us as one. 

In the end when the property is all fixed up and finished, we will love it and appriciate it all the more!

Let us change this generation and stop being renters of our marriages, lets own them!! There is power in marriages, lets keep them together!




{this of course doesn't apply for those who are being abused physically or mentally or any other unhealthy situation}






4 comments:

  1. Such a good reminder! I'm loving that hair!!

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  2. I love this post and I needed to read it right this second! You are so right and dead on.. It's like we live in a culture and in this day and age.. When we have something we dont like, instead of trying to fix it, we throw it away and get something new.. It's sad really! I'm with ya.. Thanks for the encouragement and reminder! XO

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  3. Olga, you are alwasys spot on. I think that is a great comparison. A lot of us don't look at marriage as a forever thing, instead it is looked at as a "for Now" thing. Like we were talking about the other day - it can be the hardest thing in the world sometimes, but it is the most beautiful and fulfilling thing.

    Love you <3

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  4. I love this post Olga and you are sooo right! I love this analogy. What a great reminder for everyone also! I agree it isn't always easy but it is so worth the hard work when you love someone so deeply and know that you both put in the work to have a lasting happy relationship. xoxo

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